Fetishes

Last month I posted about possibly dressing again for an 80s disco thing. It was something I had been thinking about for a bit but ultimately I didn't in the end. I left it a bit late and once I got to the thing it probably wasn't the best place to do it anyway although there were a few people about in fancy dress and it would have made me feel better I guess.

As far as CD goes, I've ordered another dress and I've even been dressing on the odd occasion in the evening, usually in a skirt and tights. Physically going into a shop and buying things is still a problem which I guess I need to overcome. I've also been checking out a few videos by Vera Wylde on YouTube recently with some good tips. One of them being that shop assistants either think you're buying for a wife or girlfriend or they just don't care. Of course, it's hard not to fee that all eyes are upon you and that everyone in the shop has 'guessed' what you are or that the shopgirls won't have a good snigger about it after you leave the store.

I think it just feels so taboo and that you need to de-fetishise it which is why I like to dress sometimes in the evening, to make it feel normal to myself. One a season four episode of RuPaul's Drag Race Sharon Needles, when having to dress a burly bloke for a challenge, advised him that "we don't fetishise the clothes" and that's really stuck with me or a few months. It needs not to be a taboo thing, in the mind anyway. It's just clothes after all and I need to believe that.

Oh, and I've now broken my record for most blog posts in a year since I started in 2012 so that's something anyway.